Does the Bible talk about miscarriage?

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TL;DR:

Miscarried children are fully human and seen by God, valuable to Him and to us, even if their lives are brief. Grieving parents can find hope and healing after a miscarriage, knowing their child was a blessing and that God is with us in our grief.

from the old testament

  • Ultimately, miscarriage is the death of a person. Psalm 139:13-16 says, "For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them." Despite what comes about through the fallenness of the world, God still sees a person, made in His image (Genesis 1:27), living to his God-ordained potential within his mother's womb.
  • The separation from a lost child doesn't have to be permanent. After David and Bathsheba's infant died in 2 Samuel 12:21-23, David announced his conviction that he would see his child again—"I shall go to him, but he will not return to me." David was convinced he would see his child again. We can take comfort in that conviction.
  • It feels logical to blame God for the tragedy He had control over. But it is far better to seek out God for the comfort and love only He can give. He promises peace for those who come to Him (Psalm 34:17-18; Isaiah 26:3-4).

from the new testament

  • God promises to never leave no matter what the circumstances (Hebrews 13:5).
  • Hebrews 12:15 exhorts, "See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no 'root of bitterness' springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled." It is foolish to harbor bitterness toward the One Person Who "is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble" (see Psalm 46:1).
  • God has promised believers that “He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away” (Revelation 21:4). We can be certain that the grief we experience at the loss of a child will not exist in the new heaven and new Earth.

implications for today

A miscarriage is the death of a child before he or she is born. The mother's womb is designed to be a place of warmth and safety. The fallen world, including several thousand years of sin-induced genetic issues, can cause chromosomal errors in the egg or sperm. If the defects are too great, the fetus often spontaneously miscarries. Problems with the mother's reproductive system can also cause issues with carrying a baby to term. Most miscarriages are not caused by anything the mother did or could have prevented.

Since God sees each miscarried child as one made in His image, we should too. It is entirely appropriate to name the child, acknowledge his individuality, and mourn his loss. Whether the baby was planned or not, wanted or not, miscarriage is still the death of a child—a loss to which our heavenly Father can relate (John 3:16).

God not only takes care of the baby, He loves the mourning parents. We can and should respond to miscarriage by giving ourselves permission to grieve fully, knowing that God sees and values our child. Processing the grief of our baby’s death through journaling, prayer, or a small ceremony can help acknowledge our loss and begin the healing process. Leaning on God in prayer, Scripture, and supportive relationships allows us to experience His comfort and presence (Psalm 34:18). Seeking professional counseling or joining a grief support group can also provide guidance and community for processing the complex emotions of loss. Finally, as we heal, we can honor our child’s memory by choosing to live in hope, trusting God’s love and faithfulness even in the midst of sorrow (Romans 8:28).

Circumstances may be difficult; the situation may look dire. But a child, no matter how short his life, is a blessing.

understand

  • Miscarried children are fully human, intricately formed by God, and valued in His sight, even if their lives are brief.
  • Parents grieving a miscarriage are not alone; God provides His presence and hope for healing.
  • Miscarriage is often a result of the fallen state of the world, and allowing ourselves to grieve is an essential part of healing.

reflect

  • How can you personally honor and acknowledge the life of a child lost through miscarriage, even if his or her life was brief?
  • How can you lean on God’s presence and promises to find comfort and hope during grief?
  • How might understanding miscarriage as a natural consequence of a fallen world help you release guilt and process your emotions?

engage

  • How can we support parents grieving a miscarriage in ways that reflect God’s compassion and presence?
  • What practices or rituals could we create together to help honor miscarried children and acknowledge their value?
  • How can our understanding of God’s perspective on life and loss influence the way we minister to others experiencing grief?