Paul’s point by saying that tongues would cease was not to provide a timeline of when they would end. Rather, he was concerned because the Corinthians were pursuing what they considered to be better gifts, like tongues, without any love or concern for other believers. By saying that they cease, Paul was highlighting how much more important love is than any particular gift. Indeed, he even theorized that if he could speak the best of best languages (that of angels) then that great gift would be harmful if he exercised it without loving the other members of the body of Christ. To make his argument that love is superior, Paul said that love, unlike those special gifts, would never end. The focus on this passage, then, is not on when tongues cease but that we must love other believers by exercising whatever gift the Spirit gives us for their benefit.
Today, the question of whether or not the gift of tongues still exists can be contentious among Christians. It has led Christians to divide into two camps, with some even disparaging those with the other view.
Despite Paul’s focus on love, because of his comment about tongues ceasing, Christians have tried to make educated guesses as to when that would happen. All note that Paul says that they will end “when the perfect comes” (1 Corinthians 13:10). But when is (or was) that? One group of Christians, known as continuationists, believe the “perfect” is the end of time, when Jesus returns; thus, they believe gifts like tongues are still continuing in the church today. Another group, the cessationists, believe the “perfect” is when the Bible was completed, being the completion of revelation. Thus, they believe miraculous gifts like tongues have already ceased.
Using 1 Corinthians 13:8 to fight for continuationism or cessationism is somewhat ironic given that Paul’s point was to focus on loving one another, not on gifts, as love is the one thing that will never end.
It is certainly healthy for the church to wrestle with Scripture to make sure we understand God’s Word correctly, but we must also strive to love our brethren who disagree with our conclusions. What unifies us is what makes us Christians: the Gospel (Philippians 1:27). Indeed, that is why we are to love one another. Jesus said that it is our love for one another that will show the world that we are His disciples (John 13:34-35). Therefore, while we may not fully understand what the “perfect” is and whether tongues have ceased, we do know that every gift the Spirit gives us is not for our benefit but for us to share with the rest of the church by serving it in love.