what does the bible say?
God created all humanity and said it was good (Genesis 1:27-28, 31). This includes creating humanity as sexual beings. Sexual desires are not inherently sinful but rather, expressions of the way God created us to be sexual beings. Unfortunately, sin has entered our world and corrupted the good and holy desires God created, twisting them in ways God did not intend. Sexual desires, however, in the context of God’s design are very good. The situations in both Genesis and Song of Solomon speak of desire within committed, monogamous, heterosexual relationships. Those desires are to be encouraged and indulged. Problems arise, however, when our sexual desires are indulged outside those parameters. Misdirected desires can lead us into sin if we indulge them by continually thinking about them, lusting in our thoughts, or engaging in sexual activity outside of God's parameters, but sexual desire within God's parameters for sex is nothing to be ashamed about; in fact, is a gift to be cultivated and enjoyed.