As seen in David’s example with Bathsheba, tragedy can result from not guarding our mind. When it comes to romance novels, we should examine both the type of content we are allowing into our minds as well as our motives behind reading it. Jesus informs us that we do not have to physically participate in adultery to commit sexual sin. If a book tempts us to think immoral thoughts, it is better to throw it out. We should do what is beneficial to our relationship with Christ and avoid things that could negatively impact those around us.
In 1 Corinthians 10:23, we see that although all things are lawful, not all things are beneficial, and in 1 Corinthians 10:31, we are told to do everything for the glory of God. For books we are not sure about, we should hold them to the godly attributes in Philippians 4:8. While reading a romance novel might be entertaining, if it causes us to lust, feel or desire things we should not, or cause us to be discontent with the love God has for us, then we should refrain from reading romance novels. Above all, we should pursue loving God and loving others and should seek to glorify Him with our entertainment choices, including reading romance novels.
Not all romance novels contain objectionable material, sexually charged scenes, and passionate fantasy, but many do. When deciding if we should read a romance novel, we should ask ourselves good questions, such as “Do the romance novels I read help me grow in my relationships with people and with God?,” “Would I be comfortable reading this book to Jesus?,” “What is my motive for reading this book?,” or “Is this book stirring up temptation in my heart?” We should also ask ourselves questions that will help us evaluate if it will be beneficial to those around us. For instance, “Will reading this book tempt me to resent my partner’s shortcomings?”
We should not read romance novels to fill a void of love or passion in our own lives, even if that void is great. For example, some read romance novels to escape their own, sometimes difficult realities. God does not want us to rely on any kind of entertainment for our source of help. He has provided for us "all things that pertain to life and godliness" when we pursue knowing Him (2 Peter 1:3). He alone can fill those voids in our hearts and lives. When determining whether or not to read a specific book or series, God's wisdom is available to the Christian reader. We must simply ask with belief that He will guide us (James 1:5–6), and we can count on Him to answer our prayers.