what does the bible say?
Matthew 5:48 calls us to "be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect," but the Greek word for "perfect,” telios, means "brought to its end, completed, or perfect." This requires complete reliance on God, -which is quite the opposite of modern perfectionism in which we continually put pressure and unrealistic expectations on ourselves. Martha is often thought of as a perfectionist, given her behavior in Luke 10:38-42. However, Jesus makes it clear that it is better to be like her sister Mary and rest in His presence rather than be “anxious and troubled about many things” (Luke 10:41). Romans 3:23 indicates that “all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,” which affirms that only God is fully perfect. When it comes to the good work of Jesus in our lives, we cannot even take credit for that, as it is He who both started it and will bring it to completion (Philippians 1:6). While it is ultimately God who grows and transforms us, we are to work as well, not striving for our human version of perfection but taking care to grow in our faith (2 Peter 3:18).