Is jealousy always a sin?

from the old testament

• In the first of the Ten Commandments, God commands exclusive worship, using the word "jealous" to describe Himself: "You shall not bow down to them or serve them [other gods], for I the Lord your God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me" (Exodus 20:5)
• But the Bible condemns human jealousy, i.e., wanting something that someone else has. The last of the Ten Commandments says, "You shall not covet your neighbor's house; you shall not covet your neighbor's wife, or his male servant, or his female servant, or his ox, or his donkey, or anything that is your neighbor's" (Exodus 20:17).
• Scripture presents examples of the sinful consequences of jealousy. Joseph's brothers sold him into slavery because they were jealous of their father's favoritism toward him (Genesis 37:3–11, 28; cf. Acts 7:9). Saul became jealous of David's acclaim (1 Samuel 18:6–11). Human jealousy stems from selfish desires and is sinful.

from the new testament

• Paul speaks of having a "divine jealousy" for Corinthian believers whom he brought to Christ. The jealousy is not sinful and selfish but seeks to encourage faithfulness to Christ (2 Corinthians 11:2).
• But Paul points out that human jealousy of of the flesh rather than the Spirit: "for you are still of the flesh. For while there is jealousy and strife among you, are you not of the flesh and behaving only in a human way?" (1 Corinthians 3:3).
• In Christ, we have all we need. Jealousy arises when we are dissatisfied with what God has given us. Hebrews tells us to be "be content with what you have" (Hebrews 13:5).
• Christians are to be Spirit-led; jealousy is being led by the flesh rather than the Spirit, Paul wrote in Galatians, "If we live by the Spirit, let us also keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another" (Galatians 5:25-26).
• In defining love, Paul mentions that "love does not envy" (1 Corinthians 13:4). True believers will show love to others, and jealousy is not a part of that.

implications for today

Do you ever try to keep up with the Jones'? Does their grass look greener than yours?

The cliches may be old, but the emotion is not: jealousy. There's a reason it's called the green-eyed monster. Jealousy is all about you wanting something that someone else has, whether it's another person's regard or a tangible thing, like a car or a house.

But if your eyes are on God, they'll be too focused on Him to dwell on what others have. Besides, what God has given us is exactly what we should have. Coveting what doesn't belong to us is one way of saying, "God, what You've given me isn't good enough." If that's your attitude, you're behaving like the Israelites who complained about the manna God had rained down on them from heaven (Numbers 11:4–6). In other words, you're not in good company.

If jealousy is a common feeling for you, pray for God to excise that emotion from you. And thank Him every day for all that He has given you: the house you live in, the food you eat, the love you have from family and friends—basically, what many of us take for granted but shouldn't. When you do that, you'll begin to realize how blessed you are.