Should I feel guilty when I spend money on luxuries?

Should I feel guilty when I spend money on luxuries?
Fall Apologetics Worldview

TL;DR:

Spending money on luxury isn’t automatically wrong—the real question is what your spending says about what you value. Be a wise steward, enjoy God’s gifts with gratitude, and make sure your money serves God and others rather than becoming the thing you treasure most.

from the old testament

  • Buying luxury items isn't inherently sinful. God blessed Solomon with wealth and luxury far beyond what most people today could imagine. Solomon describes such "wealth and possessions" as "the gift of God" (Ecclesiastes 5:19).
  • God blessed many Old Testament figures with abundant goods (Genesis 13:2, 26:12–14, 1 Chronicles 29:28; 2 Chronicles 32:27–28).
  • But the Bible teaches that spending wealth on luxury goods without budgeting for necessities or going into debt to obtain luxury goods is foolish (Proverbs 21:20, 22:7).

from the new testament

  • Luxury goods should never take priority in our lives. Jesus cautioned, "Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also" (Matthew 6:19-21).  Material possessions are temporary; Christ is everlasting.
  • Jesus' interaction with the rich young man shows that sometimes, the possessions possess. The rich young man Jesus encountered wouldn't give up his wealth for Jesus (Matthew 19:23). On the other hand, when Zacchaeus encountered Christ, he pledged, "Here and now I give half of my possessions to the poor" (Luke 19:8). Christ must come before anything, including luxury goods.
  • Christians must love God and others (Matthew 22:36-40). We manifest that by helping others in need (James 2:15-17), taking care of family (1 Timothy 5:8), and giving to body of Christ (2 Corinthians 9:6-7). Believers who neglect that to spend on luxury items should rightly feel guilty as the Holy Spirit may be convicting them.

implications for today

Guilt is like a backpack filled with rocks. It's a burden that, in many cases, we willingly carry around. Our attitude toward luxury goods can make that burden heavier or lighter:

Put a dollar in the church plate because you spent $200 on luxury spa treatments? Add a rock.

Buy your kids high-end sneakers so they can seem "better" than the other kids? Add another rock.

Go out to an expensive fine dining steakhouse for your anniversary? Take out a rock.

Luxury goods aren't necessarily wrong, and you shouldn't always feel guilty because you treat yourself to that $7 specialty takeout coffee drink. But it all comes down to value—not in terms of numbers but in the value you place on what you bring into your life.

So take an honest look at your spending: What are you spending your money on, and what does that spending reveal about what you value? Are you buying the luxury item because you see it as a gift from God, you're seeking to be a good steward and want to enjoy something that will last, or you need it? Or are you buying it because you want to impress people, keep up with others, feel more successful, or convince yourself that you deserve it?

When considering what to spend our money on, we should consider if we can afford it, but more than that, we should also ask why we want it, what we will do with it, and if it detracts or hinders us from being faithful stewards and witnesses to Christ. A luxury purchase might be perfectly fine, but if your heart is chasing status, approval, comfort, or identity through what you own, the problem isn't the price tag—it's what you're asking that purchase to do for you.

On the other hand, enjoying something beautiful, celebrating a special occasion, or occasionally treating yourself isn't automatically materialistic. Invite God into your spending decisions: give generously, live within your means, enjoy His gifts with gratitude, and be willing to say no to something you can afford when buying it would feed a desire that is pulling your heart away from Him. You can use your bank account as a mirror—not of how wealthy you are, but of what you treasure. And then, when you feel guilty, use it as a warning sign to turn your attention back to the One who has all you need.

understand

  • Buying luxury goods isn't inherently sinful, so it shouldn't automatically lead to guilty feelings.
  • What we spend our money on reflects where our hearts are.
  • Guilt would be appropriate if luxury items take precedence over sound financial stewardship and kingdom values, including helping others in need.

reflect

  • What impacts your view on spending money?
  • How do you seek to use your wealth to glorify God?
  • When guilt comes from buying luxury items, what can you ask yourself to check if the guilt is warranted?

engage

  • What does a biblical attitude toward money and material goods look like?
  • How should the Christian view of material goods differ from the world's?
  • What are some spiritual risks associated with owning luxury goods?