what does the bible say?
Third John is a personal letter in which the apostle John commends Gaius for faithfully walking in the truth and showing generous hospitality to traveling missionaries serving the gospel (3 John 3–8). John explains that supporting faithful gospel workers makes believers “fellow workers for the truth” and active participants in God's mission (3 John 8). In contrast, he rebukes Diotrephes, a prideful man who rejected apostolic authority, refused to welcome missionaries, and even expelled those who helped them (3 John 9–10). Rather than imitating such self-centered behavior, John urges believers to imitate what is good and godly (3 John 11). The letter also commends Demetrius as a trustworthy believer worthy of Christian support and hospitality (3 John 12). Through the examples of Gaius, Diotrephes, and Demetrius, John highlights the powerful impact both humility and pride can have on the health of the church and the spread of the gospel. Third John teaches that every believer plays a role in advancing God's kingdom, whether by going, sending, supporting, or encouraging those who labor for the truth (3 John 5–8; Matthew 28:19–20; Philippians 1:7).
Note: Unlike in 1 and 2 John, where John condemned false teachers as antichrist-like (1 John 2:18; 2 John 7), John did not have similar condemnatory things to say about Diotrephes.
This indicates that he may have been a true believer, just a sinful one that
needed to be severely corrected.