what does the bible say?
The context of John 3:5 is talking about how to be saved (how to enter the kingdom of God). In this verse, Jesus answered, “’Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter the kingdom of God.’” There are several views as to what Jesus meant by “born of water.” One view assumes that it refers to baptism. However, the passage does not use the word “baptism,” and there are other, better alternative views. There is stronger contextual support that Jesus was either talking about physical birth in response to Nicodemus’ question about physical birth, or that He was talking exclusively on spiritual transformation. Additionally, any interpretation that makes baptism the cause of salvation is directly contradictory to the rest of Scripture, which teaches that faith is by salvation alone (Ephesians 2:8–9).
Therefore, despite ongoing disagreements about what “born of water and the Spirit” mean, Jesus cannot be contradicting His own teaching a couple verses later when He says that “whoever believes in [God’s Son] has eternal life” (John 3:16). Instead, Jesus is teaching that no one is saved unless they are spiritually transformed through their faith in Jesus. Only those who are transformed, “born again,” can enter the kingdom of God (John 3:3).